Georgia NeSmith
2 min readSep 11, 2021


I know a lot of people don't like to have commenters who drop in links, but I hope I will be forgiven for these.

I wrote a piece on living with grief a year or so ago called Twenty True Things I Know About Living With Grief*(revised in the Time of the Coronavirus) that I think people may find helpful:

And yesterday I published On Suicide and Ignorance in response to someone else's piece about feeling deep pain over having the same old same old cliches thrown at her.

It begins:

My son-in-law Erik died by suicide in June 2010. One of the first reactions I encountered upon telling people I knew was, “How selfish!”


Ironically, I've dealt with my own suicide attempts/serious imaginings...starting at age 7. I cover a bit of those as well. I speak from inside that transparent but leaded bowl one often lives inside, under the weight of words like that.

I post these not in order to promote myself, but in hopes that you and others may find my words helpful and healing.

Losing a loved one to an untimely death is hard enough. Having that untimely death be suicide can be overwhelming.

My daughter of course had to cope with losing a husband too soon (age 44) as well as the father to her five children. She was in pretty bad shape but she tried so hard to hide it. She's a lot better now, tho. She dedicates herself to helping to bring new life into the world as a doula, as well as documenting that life with her photography. I am so proud of her...

Sorry for taking up so much space here and talking about myself. Your essay struck a deep chord in me of course, and "the internet made me do it!"

Best wishes for continued healing.



Georgia NeSmith

Retired professor, feminist, writer, photographer, activist, grandmother of 5, overall Wise Woman. Phd UIA School of Journalism & Mass Communication, 1994.