Not all transgender women do these attacks on cisgender women while having not the slightest clue what we are actually talking about.

But way too many do. They actually start with a binary definition of "women" and "men" and they want cisgender women to see them as "just like us."

Except this branch of the transgender movement doesn't have a clue what we are about because they have never experienced what we have. I welcome transgender women to feminism. Really, I do. but clearly this particular one (and others like him) doesn't have a clue what we have lived thru as cisgender women from the cradle.

Neither do WE understand on a visceral level what it means to be born externally male while nonetheless identifying as female.

The fact is, WE ARE DIFFERENT. That is not to deny their identity as women. It DOES deny that our experiences as people who identify as women is the same. Indeed, to claim that we are “the same” actually denies the experiences they have had as identity-born as opposed to physically-born women.

When you are born physically as a woman, your life will be different from that of an identity-born woman. And frankly, I think that denying that basic reality can’t be anything but HARMFUL to identity-born women. It erases all that has been different about their lives. Difference does not equal “less than.”

I have a great deal of empathy for them. I know the lives they've lived thru can be truly horrid thanks to radically unrelenting masculinist eyes. But someone who isn't going to try to get what it is to be a woman in a patriarchal society, and who applies those binaries as if they are 100% real (if you are a woman and you recognized you have been victimized, that means you are stuck there, it is now and ever shall be, world without end, thoroughly fails to understand what it means to be born women from day one.

Why can't we be BOTH victims AND active agents in our lives? Why does it have to be one or the other?

...sounds familiar, doesn't it?

Retired professor, feminist, writer, photographer, activist, grandmother of 5, overall Wise Woman. Phd UIA School of Journalism & Mass Communication, 1994.

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