Pardon me for sticking my white face in here, but there's an issue that isn't being addressed. I hope folks don't mind...

Even if this guy has the wherewithal to support all of those children and ensure their moms don't have to work themselves to death providing for them AND taking care of them, there's still the matter of: when does this dad actually act like a dad?

Those kids need more than financial support, and their moms need more than some bucks to cover the cost of those kids. They need a father in the house...and if that's not possible (yes, divorces happen; I've had 2), the kids need to be able to spend regular time with their dads. No matter how much money dad has, he will never have enough time to be a real dad to all these kids. Not to mention a source of emotional support for the moms.

To me, that's even more important than the money. And it's also something black dads share with white dads: most white dads don't give their kids enough time, either. Far too many see their responsibility as dads is to be the "breadwinner." Tho honestly I've seen more black dads deeply involved with their kids' lives when and if that is at all possible.

Fatherhood itself needs to be re-evaluated and defined in a way that puts the kids first.

Retired professor, feminist, writer, photographer, activist, grandmother of 5, overall Wise Woman. Phd UIA School of Journalism & Mass Communication, 1994.

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