Shouldn’t you be over that by now? Toxic “helpers” perpetuating trauma

Do not ever tell a traumatized person “shouldn’t you be over that by now?” or “stop living in the past!” No matter how long ago the trauma happened.

Do not tell it to anyone who was traumatized as an adult. But most of all, do not tell it to someone who was traumatized as a child.

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Retired professor, feminist, writer, photographer, activist, grandmother of 5, overall Wise Woman. Phd UIA School of Journalism & Mass Communication, 1994.

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Georgia NeSmith

Georgia NeSmith

Retired professor, feminist, writer, photographer, activist, grandmother of 5, overall Wise Woman. Phd UIA School of Journalism & Mass Communication, 1994.

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