So you have lucked out. Or you're pretty young. Or you haven't yet noticed how badly you've been treated. A whole lot of oppression is disguised as "kindness." You keep on getting that "kindness" as long as you behave in a way that pleases them.
There ARE good men out there. A few. And 99% are already taken.
I haven't met a an unmarried man who's even worth dating since 1984.
And I don't do "affairs." A man who will cheat on his wife will eventually cheat on his lover as well.