What a lovely person who surely helps people get through these awful days feeling hopeful that she’ll survive and it will end eventually.

If you received expert CBT you’d know how toxic and abusive your words are. No doubt the same words your parents used when you were small. Like, “shut up! Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!”

The absolutely worst thing and most useless, even counter productive, things you can say to someone who is struggling to the breaking point. Telling someone other people have had it worse so suck it up doesn’t help a single soul.

Frankly it’s not very far from just socking someone hard in the jaw & making them fly across the room.

You must have had a horrible father. Possibly a horrible mother, too. Never been comforted in sorrow & pain. Never nurtured.

I bet you’d say that same thing to this overworked, exhausted nurse who is working in dangerous conditions — not enough protective gear, extra hours, more patients than ever before. She will not be able to see her toddler daughter for 3 months because she doesn’t want to put her child in danger. Meanwhile no supervision from doctors or senior nurses, doing everything alone, no one to talk to.

What this young woman needs is just someone to hold and rock and soothe her, maybe even sing a lullaby to her. 15 minutes & she’d have the energy to bounce back & take on the next patient. I’d so much rather be treated by a nurse who has just received a loving, compassionate, nurturing response…as opposed to your poison.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dEef-AIlYzY

Too bad nobody nurtured you as a child.

Retired professor, feminist, writer, photographer, activist, grandmother of 5, overall Wise Woman. Phd UIA School of Journalism & Mass Communication, 1994.

Retired professor, feminist, writer, photographer, activist, grandmother of 5, overall Wise Woman. Phd UIA School of Journalism & Mass Communication, 1994.