Yeah, I’ve generally stopped contradicting people except about things that are really important, like political candidates, at least those who stand a real chance of winning, or those whose small chance of winning can cause the very worst to win.

I came to this contextual thinking idea when I had a group of ADHD doctoral candidates I was coaching & doing editing for so they could finally finish their dissertations. It took me 10 years & would have taken longer if not for the rule that I’d have to retake my oral exams if I took more time.

I noticed a very definite pattern with my clients trying to do 3 dissertations in one. It’s not that the subjects weren’t related, just that in order to provide enough evidence for their assertions, their dissertations would be thousands of pages long. The 1st draft of mine was 400 pages, which I ultimately cut to 250 — only after setting aside two other efforts. When I’d tell my adviser I wanted to talk about my dissertation, he’d ask, “Which one?”

The glorious thing about being ADHD is that we know a lot about many different subjects…but of course we then get accused of being “know-it-alls.”

About using the word “I too much” — one of my brothers brought it up, and I responded with, “how do you say ‘I love you,’ without the word ‘I’?” Personally I (there I go again..and again…) wish more people explained their understanding of ideas with applications to their personal lives. We’d all know and understand each other better on a personal level. Something the world desperately needs.

I generally keep my mouth shut these days, and then get accused of being a snob.

You can’t win.

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Georgia NeSmith

Georgia NeSmith


Retired professor, feminist, writer, photographer, activist, grandmother of 5, overall Wise Woman. Phd UIA School of Journalism & Mass Communication, 1994.